There have been some interesting devlopments in the dating game. Having 2 guys show genuine interest at the same time is definitely nice. And it's somehting that hasn't happened to me in quite some time. Dear reader, if you expect any names here...you might as well just move on...as that's just not gonna happen here.
Both of those guys are both interesting to talk to, and I do have with both of them quite a number of things in common. And I really do appreciate the time I get to chat with them. But me having a quite very busy life doesn't make that easy. There are many things that we both agree on and would want to have. But I guess the things you can't have right away and are not exactly easy to obtain are worth waiting for. I am aware that online you can be anything you ever want to be. And only a date face to face can answer the question if the same chemistry is there in person as there is online. Both of those guys love dogs, and that is something important to me. If it shoudl ever come down to it I would never ever date someone who doesn't love dogs. That would be pretty much a deal breaker. Another possible deal breaker could be the question of adopting kids. That's just not something that is part of how I evision my life for the next 10 to 20 years. Or to put it another way, I rather live with a pack of dogs than adopt a single kid.
With one of those 2 guys I do have something else in common. We do think alike when it comes to our professional life and we do have a very similar focus when it comes to matters regarding our occupation. And that is something that is quite important.
I did think about it long and hard. And yes there are quite some differences between those 2 guys as well. The sexual preference didn't play much of a roll here. What did play a role was the question "Whom can I see myself with". And it's just a fact that I can see myself with one of those 2 guys and not so much with the other. It's just that there seems to be a little a deeper connection. And having worked in accounting for over 2 decades, you never really stop being an accountant. And you never really stop using the rational side of your brain. So I did look at it from a rational side and not only with what my heart was telling me. If you're in your 20's you can go with your feelings only, but if you're my age you just don't have that luxury any more. And as hard is it might sound, one of those 2 guys just seems to have a couple of red flags. I'm not gonna go into any specifics here, since this is not the appropriate place for it. And I don't think that I'm willing to deal with all those red flags. But of course there is always slim possibility that those red flags only came up in chat, but wouldn't pose a problem in real life. With all that being said, currently I can only see myself with one and not other.
And this is the first time in quite a long time that I did let my heart be part of that dating journey and not just decide it rationally and keep people at bay in order to prevent from possibly getting hurt again.
But only future will tell for sure where this dating adventure is gonna go.
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